I spent a good chunk of time yesterday on a training walk for the Komen 3-day in November. It was my longest yet–15 miles (woo-hoo!)–and it took a bit over 5 hours. It felt really great to be done, let me tell you Though tired and stiff, I still felt pretty darn good, considering. Just a few more weekends to get in some miles, and then the actual walk the weekend before Thanksgiving.
Today’s article fits in with this time of year–the holidays. With Halloween just a week away, it’s a good time for a very quick time out to remind ourselves of what’s really important during the holidays and throughout the year. While traditions and celebrations certainly have their place, the bottom line is that it’s all about your family and expressing your love for them. Small actions, done regularly demonstrate your love just as much, if not more so, than the grand efforts often seen at this time of the year.
Until next time,
Permission To Love Your Children
This is your letter of permission to go ahead and simply love your children.
Put down those expectations that are ingrained in someone else’s idea of what it means to be successful in the world and stare a few moments longer into the precious eyes of the child who stands before you.
Instead of asking how their day was, inquire about what lights their passion, what made them smile today, and what was one place they would like a do over.
Institute a random dance party in the middle of the grocery store in the second before a meltdown threatens to take you all to a place you’d rather not visit. It’s okay if everyone turns and looks at you cause you’re making memories and we could all use more of the happy sort in this lifetime.
Say I love you over and over again not just in words but in the foods you put before them at dinner time or the extra marshmallow on the hot chocolate.
Listen more and talk less with the sort of full attention you pay to the most important conversations you have because they are just that the most important moments of truly getting to know who your child is out there in the world.
Touch more in cuddles and tickles and wrestling matches. Especially the bigger ones who are making their way farther out in the world so they can always remember your arms are a safe haven.
Undo the places where you were done wrong by, so you don’t accidentally pass them along to the most precious person you’ve had the honor to know in this world.
Laugh from the bottom of your belly side by side on the couch watching the movie you swore had no value but your child was dying to see. Hold in the breath that longs to pull it apart and choose instead to see it through the eyes of wonder that are your child’s.
Yes, each day, find one, just one simple way to love more, that being that is your child. It’s life’s most precious work. I promise.